LOVE IS OTHERS
LOVE IS OTHERS
Love is an innate desire and a concept that we too many times confuse for butterflies and chocolate. There is infatuation, there is affection, there is lust and then, there is love. Love is a commitment to something, someone or some people, it is a gift that comes without conditions, and it is for the good of yourself and the person or persons you’re in that ship with. Love is a beautiful thing that happens first to you and then to others because you can never truly love others if you don’t love yourself.
There is this tendency to please ourselves only, we can’t be bothered with others, after all only people that serve me deserve me right? Well, let’s rock that boat. Even people that don’t serve you should deserve you. You’re a star after all and the star shines for the good and the bad. The star looks past its nose and shines upon the horizon to light up the lives of others no questions asked, no reward sought because there’s beauty in loving and being loved. It’s a desire we all have and it’s a worthy desire because love is light and light yearns to shine beautifully.
How do you express your love to others?
- The first port of call in loving others is to express your love to God through thanksgiving. Being thankful is peaceful. It fills you with peace and when you’re at peace, you give people peace.
- You need to stay happy: Happiness is like a river that flows. If you notice whenever you’re happy, you smile more, and people smile back, even when they don’t smile back, you’re not deterred, rather you smile at the next person. When you’re happy you sing while you eat, you share things with others readily, you open the door for a total stranger and that action can bless their day( if they were having a bad day). When you’re happy, you wave to strangers and some happy strangers will wave back! Lol! You forgive instantly, you dance even if you’re not good at it, you readily desire to give smiles and kindness to others! Happiness is a sister to confidence and love. Find things that make you happy and then stay happy and spread that happiness!
- Spend time with others: Be genuine in your efforts to cultivate a healthy relationship with friends and family. Those you love, you check up on.
- Learn the art of forgiveness: Letting go of hurt and pain is one of the biggest healings you can give to yourselves. Forgiving others frees you of being stuck in the past and helps you reach out to relationships that could be the bridge to your tomorrow. Give people an advance gift of forgiveness because people will be people, don’t stress over flaws.
- Be accomodating: Accept that people have weaknesses as you also have weaknesses. Recognize people will make mistakes. Be accommodating enough to overlook these mistakes as yours too will be overlooked.
- Do good without expecting a reward for it: Do good just because you think it is good! Don’t always do good in the face of a camera. Be good, true and true.
As Billy Ward said be the sun, the lighthouse and the disco ball for people.
As Billy Ward said be the sun, the lighthouse and the disco ball for people. Think of the sun, there are people in your life that give you warmth on your cold days, you can also be the warmth for people on their cold days.
Think of the lighthouse, there are people in your life that help you find direction and clarity, you can also help people find direction and clarity.
And lastly think of the disco ball, there are people in your life that give you motivation and energy, you can also motivate others to tap into their energy.
Love is others and others is you and in giving love, you receive love.
I shall pass this way but once; any good, therefore, that I can do or any kindness that I can show to any human being, let me do it now. Let me not defer nor neglect it, for I shall not pass this way again. -Dale Carnegie
À bientot!
(Article written by Berachah Uche)
